Dear Old Boss
My independence gives me the chance to share my thoughts and reflections on anything. Here is a note I wrote and considering sending, but didn’t. Bugger let’s just put it on my blog!
Dear xxxx
Timing is everything. In helping the xxx, I wanted to maintain a strictly professional relationship, including all matters related to xxxx. I never wanted anyone to question my integrity, advice, or decision-making. At the same time, I have been, and still am, on my own journey—one that requires my full focus with minimal distractions. That’s why I have been distant.
My journey in tech ended a few years ago, though I didn’t admit it to myself at the time. I struggled to find purpose and motivation, and in hindsight, no job in tech would have brought me much satisfaction. I also came to realize that the pursuit of more wealth was not a significant driving force for me.
You genuinely tried your best to support me and did everything you could to make me happy and engaged, for which I am truly grateful. I am deeply sorry for not being able to reciprocate. It had nothing to do with your efforts; I simply needed to take sole responsibility for charting my own path.
Grieving the loss of someone to early-onset dementia is a deeply personal and unique experience. It’s a journey I needed to take ownership of and go through on my own. I believe it has made me a better person.
Last week, I handed back my laptop to Ian in Manchester. Taking that step felt absolutely right. For some time, I’ve needed to step away from my career and old behavioural patterns.
As for how others feel, we all have our own vulnerabilities and troubles. It’s natural to attribute the cause of our feelings to others as a way of dealing with our inner demons. That’s why it’s crucial to focus on your own narrative and not let others, for their own reasons, impose theirs on you.
Take Care
David
